Of all the words in the dictionary, should is one of my least favourite.
Just reading that definition makes me a little stressed out.
I’ll admit, it has a way of sneaking into my vocabulary when I’m not paying attention.
But it never feels good to say. It’s laced with guilt and feelings like I’m either doing something wrong or there’s more that I should be doing.
Can you relate?
How many times have you caught yourself saying “I should do that”? And have you ever noticed how it makes you feel?
It’s so common that after a while it starts become almost automatic.
“I should go to the gym”
“I shouldn’t eat that”
We put so much pressure on ourselves to please other people, that sometimes these “shoulds” come from anywhere but ourselves.
So how about this instead:
Next time you catch yourself using the S word, replace it with “I’d like to”
- “I should work out more often” becomes “I’d like to work out more often”.
- “I should go that dinner party I was invited to” becomes “I’d like to go to that dinner party”
- “I should stop eating this kettle corn” becomes “I’d like to stop eating this kettle corn.”
This subtle shift can make all the difference. Can you feel the freedom it gives you? The choice is yours, not because it’s expected of you but because you want to.
And if using “I’d like to” feels like a lie, then why are we telling ourselves we SHOULD do these things?
I’m here to give you full permission to only do the things that you want to do. That feel good to your soul.
Even if it means eating the whole bag of popcorn. If you’re going to anyways, then why feel guilty about it? (If however, you know you’d like to stop and you still can’t then that’s another story, and another topic for another day).
The more you pay attention to what you really want, the more you’ll give yourself the freedom to live your life the way YOU want to.
And darling, you deserve to live your life for you. It’s YOUR life after all.
What’s one thing you catch yourself saying you “should” do that you really don’t want to? Leave a comment below and tell me what you’re going to do differently from here on out!