I hate new years resolutions.
There, I said it.
Even if we go into the New Year with the best of intentions to avoid the crash diets and the mad dash to the gym, it’s easy to get caught up in the whole thing. It’s everywhere!
It’s like we’re expected to have set some lofty goal to “better ourselves” for the new year (#newyearnewme… barf). But so often bettering ourselves comes from the belief that we were flawed to begin with. That we’ve been “bad” all year (and especially over the holidays) and now is our chance to finally right our wrongs.
Now’s our chance to punish (read: starve) ourselves for all of last year’s wrong doings.
I’m all for setting goals, and being the best possible version of yourself, but you have my full permission to skip the resolutions this year – and to ditch the one you’ve already set.
Especially if it has anything to do with food, your weight (or dress size) or signing up for a gym membership that you know deep down you’ll only use for a week.
Allow me to help you take the pressure off and remind you that you are good enough exactly as you are right now. In fact, you’re more than good enough. You’re fucking perfect.
So screw the resolutions, and look to the new year ahead with intentions rather than set in stone goals. Resolve to be your best – and feel your best – rather than to look your best or to fix yourself.
Here are 10 ways to set intentions for the new year that will actually leave you feeling good about yourself:
- Focus on what you already have. Start a gratitude journal and list 3 things you’re grateful to have in your life. Friends you can call any time of day, money to pay the rent, a clean bill of health, fresh air to breathe. Nothing is too small to be grateful for.
- Do more of what you enjoy (and less of what you don’t). If you hate the gym, don’t go! Maybe you’d prefer to go for a hike with a friend or take a yoga class instead. Same thing with the food you feel like you “should” eat. (See my blog post on the S word here). If you’d rather stay in on a Friday night than go out to the bar, give yourself permission to do just that. Run a hot bath and fire up the Netflix! It’s up to you to put yourself first. Get clear on what you want and say no when you need to.
- Focus on feeling good. Sure you could aim to lose 20 pounds in the next 3 months, or you could commit to going to the gym 6 days a week. But is that going to get you any closer to feeling how you want to feel? Regardless of what we want to change on the outside, the end goal is always to feel a certain way. Figure out what that is (The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte is a great tool for this) and make sure everything else lines up with that.
- Get creative. Find ways – that you enjoy – to quiet your mind and boost your creativity. Some of my favourites are journaling first thing in the morning (think: before you reach for your phone) and colouring in an adult colouring book.
- Learn something new. Brush up on your cooking skills, take a painting class, or try a new style of yoga. Broadening your horizons and skillset will give you something new to focus on rather than measuring your worth by your waistline.
- Add in more of the good stuff. If you do feel inspired to set an intention around food, focus more on what you can add in vs what you feel you need to cut out. Adding in the good stuff will automatically crowd out the “bad” stuff – without leaving you feeling deprived.
- Be realistic. If a daily meditation practice feels too daunting, for example, start small with something you can actually stick to. Try 10 deep breaths while you make your morning coffee. Remember, the more lofty the goal, the harder it will be to stick to, and the worse you’ll feel when you ultimately can’t keep it up.
- Schedule time for yourself. You’re never going to find the time unless you make the time. Sounds cliché, I know – but it’s true. Instead of feeling guilty that another week has passed without exercise or self care, put it on your calendar in advance, and stick to it like you would any other appointment.
- Reward yourself. When you follow through with your intentions, find ways to reward yourself. But be mindful if your go-to treat is food. Some other ideas might be getting a massage, taking a walk in nature, or calling a friend you love to talk to. Find something that feels good and use it as an incentive to follow through on your intentions.
- Ask for help. We all need someone on our side at some point. Maybe you pair up with a friend as accountability partners, or you find a coach (*ahem*) to help you get out of your own way.
Want some one on one time with me to do just that? I offer a deep dive Mastermind Session as an intro to the Confident You™ System. You’ll walk away from this 2-hour session with lasting, real world results that you can start to use in your daily life right away. The way you feel about yourself, your body, and your relationship with food will be forever changed. Guaranteed.
During your Mastermind Session we’ll create a plan for you to break free of your limiting beliefs, squash your insecurities, and get our of your own way. You’re going to get all the personalized support you need to feel your absolute best for 2017 and the years to come – no new years resolution required.
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All my love & support in the new year!