The other day I told my best friend that she looked fat in her jeans and how she would probably never be able to make it very far in her career.
Wait, what? I know what you’re thinking; I’m a horrible person, right?
Don’t worry, this didn’t actually happen, because that would be absurd. No one would ever talk to their best friend that way, but somehow we find it perfectly acceptable to say awful, untrue things like that to ourselves every day.
Our lives are shaped from the inside out, and it’s hard to create a full and vibrant life if your inner voice is always telling you you’re just not good enough.
Imagine your best friend telling you that you would be way more attractive if you lost 15 pounds.
You’d probably feel pretty shitty, right? Me too. And when we feel shitty, we’re more likely treat ourselves poorly, and overeat, which usually leads to more fat-bashing shortly after (it’s a horrible vicious cycle).
The good news is, you have the control to not only change these thoughts, but also how you react to them.
Here’s what you can do about it:
Next time you catch yourself thinking that you’re too fat, too ugly, or anything else you would never say to your best friend, try this:
Acknowledge the negativity, and choose to love and accept yourself anyways.
Respond to the nasty (and often untrue) inner comments with something like this:
“Even though I feel fat in these jeans, I choose to love and accept myself unconditionally.” (And if you feel that fat in those jeans, go get changed!)
At first when we start to demonstrate true self-love it can feel really fake and almost a little silly, but when you CHOOSE to love yourself, it’s much easier to bypass the cliché.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experience with this. Leave a comment below and let me know how it works for you, or join the conversation on Facebook!